Episode 19

Survival without attachment is trauma

Published on: 31st March, 2021

We are so pleased to share this conversation with you, because we had the pleasure of talking with Carissa’s two besties! Meet Ani and Terin!

Do you have a group of friends you can be yourself around? How do you show up? We have been in groups that have not been safe to show up authentically and encouraged toxic behaviors. So, there is a lot of gratitude for a friendship like this, a small circle of women who provide a safe place to land when life gets tough.

We talk through the values we have learned through our relationships like vulnerability, accountability, empathy, support, validation, grace, and curiosity. We share examples of moments when we felt and learned these concepts.

It’s really nice to have friends, and we share a lot of laughter. But it’s more than that. There is a basic human need to feel attachment to help with regulating our emotions. We discuss the importance of having a small cheering section.

A good community is crucial for our mental well being, so we end the conversation with our hopes for future generations and ideas on how to cultivate those relationships in our own lives and encouraging our children to seek groups that reflect these values.

We hope you enjoy this conversation and encourage you to be a friend to someone today.

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I Totally Relate!
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Hey Everybody! Welcome to "I Totally Relate!" with Rissy and Shelbs, the podcast of conversations all things Emotional Wellbeing. We're just over here giving permission. Permission to ourselves to be serious and funny. Permission to you to ask hard questions, and join the conversation. Permission to show up, exactly as we are. Oh yeah, and we're totally related.
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This podcast is a collection of conversations. Some of them are interviews, some are guided meditations and breath work, and a lot of them are just the two of us sitting down at the table to talk through our experiences and all the things we’ve learned. We discuss big and heavy topics like trauma, insecurities, body image. And although we might be discussing a weighty issue one moment, we will be laughing the next. We are not experts, we are not perfectionists. We are just two women on our own journey oh yeah, and we’re totally related! We hope to start the conversation with you and share resources, and we hope that you can totally relate too.