Episode 43

You deserve good things, baby!

Published on: 27th October, 2021

Are you ready to get Naughty November started? We are so thrilled for this conversation! Our special guest today is leading us into our next series.

Meet Benja! He grew up in Guatemala, served a mission in Peru, and came to Utah to attend BYU, where he studied dance. This is the beginning of him learning to express himself through movement. It was during this time that he went on his first date with a boy. Afterwards he felt happy. He was able to kiss someone he was attracted to. Benja is very transparent about the low points he experienced while oppressing himself to be accepted by his community.

Embracing his true self empowered him to disassociate with the harmful institution of LDS religion. He walks us through the moments he learned he can set boundaries and was able to end his co-dependent relationship with the church and decide that he was a good person who deserved good things.

Benja shares key conversations that have helped promote healing in his relationship with his mom. He also lists a few other resources he has found helpful on his journey, i.e. meditation which has helped him through tumultuous pain, as well as prioritizing his physical health AND mental health. He is open and honest about the importance of talking about sexuality and sharing sex education with our children. It is time that we learn our way out of shame.

You can take a spin class from Benja at MCycle, or find him on the gram!

We create and share additional content each week, you can join us on Patreon, follow us on Instagram, sign up for our newsletter, or send us your thoughts and feedback at itotallyrelatepod@gmail.com

Next Episode All Episodes Previous Episode

Get in the know.

Sign up with your email address to receive news and updates.

Thank you for subscribing!

Listen for free

Show artwork for I Totally Relate!

About the Podcast

I Totally Relate!
with Rissy and Shelbs
Hey Everybody! Welcome to "I Totally Relate!" with Rissy and Shelbs, the podcast of conversations all things Emotional Wellbeing. We're just over here giving permission. Permission to ourselves to be serious and funny. Permission to you to ask hard questions, and join the conversation. Permission to show up, exactly as we are. Oh yeah, and we're totally related.
Every episode we share tools that have helped us. We offer journal prompts for you to join us on the journey, and we occasionally offer guided meditations and breathwork.
We want to share our experiences and resources, and we hope you totally relate too.
Support This Show

About your host

Profile picture for Rissy Shelby Deason

Rissy Shelby Deason

This podcast is a collection of conversations. Some of them are interviews, some are guided meditations and breath work, and a lot of them are just the two of us sitting down at the table to talk through our experiences and all the things we’ve learned. We discuss big and heavy topics like trauma, insecurities, body image. And although we might be discussing a weighty issue one moment, we will be laughing the next. We are not experts, we are not perfectionists. We are just two women on our own journey oh yeah, and we’re totally related! We hope to start the conversation with you and share resources, and we hope that you can totally relate too.